The Art of Ghosting with Susan Obehioye

The Art of Ghosting with Susan Obehioye


​To those of you who think it’s ok to be VERY BLUNT and without tact.Just know one thing. When people start avoiding you. Please don’t make a fuss.

Yes it’s fine to be blunt .. but sometimes think about how the other person would feel. Apply wisdom in communicating especially when it’s a sensitive subject.
I will give you a few examples …. I had a friend who felt she could give out criticism so easily.

But hated it when she got it as good as she gave it.One day I just realised I didn’t need to deal with all her… “I tell it as it is”.
Oh and another friend who felt she could just say it straight to me or anyone if she was not happy and would not expect you to stand up for yourself.

I made jenny’s hair! Jenny was naughty so I cut all her…

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Leigh Anne Tuohy, Racism, and the White Saviour Complex


Excellent article exposing White Saviour complex and narcissism.

The Belle Jar

Leigh Anne “That Nice Woman Sandra Bullock Played In The Blind Side” Tuohy recently posted the following picture and caption on her Facebook and Instagram accounts:


We see what we want! It’s the gospel truth! These two were literally huddled over in a corner table nose to nose and the person with me said “I bet they are up to no good” well you know me… I walked over, told them to scoot over. After 10 seconds of dead silence I said so whats happening at this table? I get nothing.. I then explained it was my store and they should spill it… They showed me their phones and they were texting friends trying to scrape up $3.00 each for the high school basketball game! Well they left with smiles, money for popcorn and bus fare. We have to STOP judging people and assuming and pigeon holing people!…

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Exhibit B is one man’s desire to exhibit racism and the rise of Neo Liberalism

Photo: Mike PeoplePictures

Photo: Mike PeoplePictures

Usually, I can put pen to paper about most subjects, especially those I feel really passionate about. However, I literally haven’t been able to write about Exhibit B because it was simply too overwhelming. I wish in this moment that I could intellectualize and do word gymnastics about the whole Exhibit B experience but I can’t so I will just write as though I am having a conversation with you, and hopefully, you will see why it was so important and why we must continue the right against racism in all mediums. I couldn’t make sense of the hostility towards us as protesters, I felt like those in favour were shouting “what is wrong with you?”, the issue was me or us we “misunderstood” we “didn’t get it”we needed to see it experience it”.  Now Bailey laments over the images published…erm, mate you had YouTube video’s going back a year ago, but like Kermit, that is none of my business! All I do know is 43,000 people (The UK and France petitions combined) totally understand that Exhibit B was pure indulgence in the massaging of white conscience. As with institutional oppression, the  victims became the victimized, not Bailey’s desire to chain and shackle Black People in cages, masquerading as anti-racist art. We were the issue, with our “pro-censorship”, “anti-freedom of speech” selves. “Trying to still the voice of Black (unemployed) actors” and silencing “a world renowned artist” whose art was “incredibly important” as to who this work is important to? is still a BIG QUESTION!!!! We were “a hysterical unruly mob”, yet  in July just one month before #boycottthehumanzoo, the Fringe Festival cancelled an Israeli show due to boycotts, they were not called “an unruly mob” or “violent protesters” no, it was pleasantly reported about, like business as usual… moving on.

Anti-racism protesters lock arms outside the Vaults in London in opposition to ‘Exhibit B’. 23 September 2014. Photograph: © Thabo Jaiyesimi.

Anti-racism protesters lock arms outside the Vaults in London in opposition to ‘Exhibit B’. 23 September 2014. Photograph: © Thabo Jaiyesimi.

Yes we were successful in our protest, it was the Barbican that decided to cancel the show not the protesters, we simply exercised our human right to protest, and protest we did! We did loudly and proudly with our spirituality and our drums, we called on our ancestors, in unity, it was a beautiful experience. Not one arrest, no criminal damage, we let our disgust and offence be known, and I would most definitely do it again. Oh yes the mainstream media tried to make out we were “violent angry thugs”, the Barbican decided the reasons they cancelled were due to public safety, which was a lie. No worries we came, we conquered and that was good enough for us…but it did not stop there. Suddenly we now had to defend ourselves against the new racist the Neo-Liberal, and trust me the Neo-Liberal can be both Black and White, the person who snipes and declares “they (us) don’t speak for me”.  a well known author who proudly hold an MBE called the supporters “Disciples of Sara Myers”, the 23,000 people who signed the petition in the UK simply did not have their own mind to see racism for what racism is? Really? I think the for the most part, many saw that unnatural desire to flaunt white privilege in the face of others,  like the Emperor with his new clothes were willing to say openly “he has no clothes on” Those Neo-liberals defending Exhibit B were those who had vested interests and ladder kickers who did not want us to upset the status quo, but that is what we came to do and that is what we did.

Photo: Facebook

Photo: Facebook

The success of the campaign against Exhibit B was not in our protesting alone, it was in our unity, our unity was about our collective struggle, the years of systematic structural  and institutional racism, over and over again, angry at being told  what racism is and is not, by those who are unwilling to accept it, when we challenge it, to repeatedly tell us “it’s not racist” but when asked what is racism is, they cannot answer, they cannot find the words to express it because its alien to them, they disconnected from it,  so they resort to “you are uneducated”you misunderstand”…basically love, “you are the problem”. Well, I tell you this, if it feels like racism, then it is racism! And Exhibit B felt racist, so therefore, it is. I cannot give Brett Bailey much air time. He is a white privileged man who cannot face his critics head on, but prefers to hide behind Black People, using them to tell his supposed anti-racist story, in chains and shackles. He gets dramatic in his pontificating of anti-racism, breaks down on social media, laments on how important his work is for breaking down barriers, then turns around and watches from the safety of his hotel room, as Black women and men get beaten and tear gassed by  fascist french police…but hey he say’s “the show goes on”. He is disgusting the most vilest of men I have ever had the displeasure of knowing exists, he is the new breed of racist the Neo-Liberal and this racist is most proficient in racism. If you are preaching an anti-racist message and you see real life people (not actors) experience the brutality and humiliation you claim to be about breaking down and all you can say is “…And I wish I knew that the man or woman who shed blood on the tarmac of St Denis on Friday night for what he or she stood for is okay”. but stand determined in your RIGHT that YOUR show must go on, the show that thousands of people have petitioned against, shed blood for, stood up for, and not even consider standing down…then I see you, we see you and our ancestors see you.

Photo: Thabo Jaiyesimis

Photo: Thabo Jaiyesimis

After seeing the pictures and videos of the protest in France. I’m heartbroken,  I see that is not about art, this is about Power, White Power and White Privilege and its arrogance and pompousness, we don’t think its racist and we are going to show. This show is being backed by governmental officials and leading academics, the petition was started by John Mullen, Historian at Val de Marne University, an academic who is now being insulted in the press. Why? Because he gets’s that this provocative exhibition is neither unique or brave and that putting black people in cages and having white people look at them, then dressing it up with fancy arty farty words is just pseudo quasi-intellectual babble trying to hide the monster that is it. I had the honor of being asked to take part in a director’s Q & A of  the documentary  “Concerning Violence” directed by Swedish, Göran Hugo Olsson. The contrast between his work and that of Bailey’s are poles apart, here we have a man who openly welcomes criticism of his work, doesn’t shy away from those difficult or challenging questions, who is totally aware of his own White Privilege, yet aims to tell a story of Black liberation with sensitivity working with some of our great leaders in freedom fighting, such as Angela Davis in “The Black Power Mixtape”, it is us who tell the story, he simply directs it, records it, shows it and in a world where White Supremacy doesn’t want to Black narrative or voice heard, I have to respect him using his own privilege to platform our voice. 

10636150_10152586520486775_973032485051712076_nYou might say he is doing exactly the same thing “telling our narrative” …No, he’s not. He’s not relishing in enslavement, he’s not dancing in delight in the pain and suffering of millions of people. No, on the contrary, he uses archive footage and the beautiful voice of Ms. Lauryen Hill, as a backdrop for the excellent work of Frantz Fanon, to demonstrate Afrikan resistance to colonialism. It is there where, Bailey fails so miserably he sees our resistance as a “misunderstanding about his work” not realizing he is doing the very thing, he preaches that he is against. He hell bent on projecting his own fantasy onto us and if we object it is because we are “fascists with dreadlocks”.

Photo: Thabo Jaiyesimi

French Protesters. Photo: Thabo Jaiyesimi

I stand with solidarity with France in their right to protest against Exhibit B. Brett Bailey must not be allowed to idly get away with his unnatural desire to play out his perverse deviant sexual fantasy of racist bondage and call it art, to want men and women to be turned on by their own guilty masturbation in their voyeuristic delight in Black pain and suffering by “gazing” at the horrors of the atrocities of times past, whilst completely ignoring the pain and suffering going on right under their noses. If Exhibit B is the champion and flagship of free speech, you can keep it, to date a staggering 43,000 people have spoken out against it and that wipes out all of those in support of it. What about their right to speak out, aren’t they being silenced? I would rather stand silent, if my speech impinges on another’s right to  liberty, free from  social injustice, discrimination and oppression. I want to see a life where we all have equal equality. A life where free speech is not just extended to those with power and with money, or those who colour is a token to an elite and privileged club. No I would rather say NOTHING AT ALL, if it cost my free speech is the beating of Black people in 2014, let my free speech that cost a nation of people their rights, die with me.

An open letter to the performers of Exhibit B


As #stopthehumanzoo reaches 10,000 supporters we write in the hope that you will consider our position as a large section of the community with valid concerns about the social and racial implications of Brett Bailey’s ‘Exhibit B’. 


#stopthehumanzoo is not about resisting one man’s rights of artistic expression but to remind us that art, like all other forms of expression, do not exist outside of structural power relations. We reject ‘Exhibit B’ because we recognize this ‘art’ as indistinguishable from the everyday and historical perpetual obsession with ‘the black body’. We recognized that ‘Exhibit B’ feeds into the fixation of the white male gaze that demonstrates his abject fear and continual over-sexualisation of ‘the black body’. We recognize the inability of ‘Exhibit B’ to separate these white male anxieties from the need to demonstrate physical authority over ‘the black body.’

It follows that we reject ‘Exhibit B’ because it further dehumanises the African image. For hundreds of years the world has seen us stripped, shackled and subdued but rather than inspire a turn of conscience, these impressions have served only to further remove our humanity and amplify our ‘Otherness.’ 

As the opening of ‘Exhibit B’ approaches, issues of race dominate the headlines and the ‘brutality of colonialism’ that Brett describes, plays out in real time. Whatever the crisis, the spotlight shines firmly on the black community.  With much irony, our pain, anger and grief are placed under a  microscope which white society refuses to place upon itself. 

‘Exhibit B’ follows the same tradition. The Oppressor is not made visible but is left to the imagination, thwarting any chance of this being a responsible, progressive piece. At a time when an examination of white privilege is required, ‘Exhibit B’ presents yet another study of black inferiority. Mr Bailey has opted out of providing the only perspective that can bring any kind of resolution. ‘Exhibit B’ looks into the souls of the victims whilst turning its back on the ones who can provide the answers and the solutions. 


The creative arts are a part of the solution. For so long the black image has peppered an art scene dominated by wealthy white Europeans as the loyal servants of nobility, women carrying water at sunset or the fearless guards ready to die to protect his white master. These pictures of servitude and domesticity paint our picture. ‘Exhibit B’ reaffirms our position for the next generation, a generation already overloaded by illustrations of black inferiority.

‘Exhibit B’ does not pay homage to the ancestors.  It sells their pain for 20 pounds a shot. It does not heal but serves to immortalise their suffering. Not even in death are they free from spectacle. In a compassionate society, when people are stripped of their dignity we cover them. We do not use their nakedness to shame the person that stole their clothes. A line must be drawn. Our renaissance must beat a fresh path.

#stopthehumanzoo is the voice of 10,000 people. Be the solution #stopthehumanzoo

Watch “My challenge to you is…SAY NO TO EXHIBIT B – A Human Zoo


My challenge to you is…SAY NO TO EXHIBIT B – A Human Zoo



Here are all the links:

The Petition;

Our Facebook Page:


Brett Bailey’s Facebook Page:

Blogs & press:

Yvette Gresle

Gillian Schutte

London News 24

Afro News:

The Voice:

The Daily Mail:

The Independent:–ekk4uS9iXe


The Guardian:

The Norway Human Zoo